Tips When Choosing a Wedding Officiant

Posted on 30th September 2016 in Relationships

If you’re not having the priest at your childhood church marry you, then you need to start scouting out possible wedding officiants. Keeping some tips in mind can help you to quickly narrow down your list, schedule appointments with possible candidates and select the person who will marry you and your spouse.

Consider Religious Requirements
Some religions require you to marry in a corresponding house of worship if you want to have your wedding ceremony recognized by the faith. Therefore, you must check the requirements of your religion; sometimes, exceptions apply. For example, two Roman Catholics must marry in a Roman Catholic church in order to have a valid ceremony in the eyes of the church. However, if you are Roman Catholic and marrying a Jewish person, you might be able to have a wedding ceremony at the reception hall with a Catholic priest and Jewish rabbi officiating together.

Consider the Officiant’s Faith
Even if you are not having a ceremony in a house of worship, selecting an officiant whose faith matches yours might be important to you. When you are not concerned with the faith of the marriage officiant, you may want to know how much religion or spirituality is infused into the ceremony. Some officiants may perform only ceremonies that incorporate certain religious or spiritual elements, and others may offer ceremonies that are more suitable for atheists and agnostics.

See the Options
When you meet with the possible officiants, they should bring options along with them. Approach officiants who have no material to show you with some level of skepticism. Usually, officiants have a book or a program that shows the different readings that they offer and the types of ceremonies that are available. You may even have the chance to see a sample script from another ceremony. The officiants usually also talk to you about the options for what they will wearing while performing the ceremony.

Customized Elements
Perhaps you and your partner want to recite your own vows to one another, or maybe you want to ask a couple of people to do a reading or to perform a song. On the other hand, you may want a ceremony that is already entirely planned out for you. The level of customization that you want is up to you and your partner, but you must make sure that the officiant can provide it. Some allow for almost complete freedom, and others will provide stricter rules that you need to follow.

Your wedding officiant plays a tremendously important role on your wedding day since he or she performs the marriage ceremony. Therefore, you want to put great care and consideration into selecting the person who will perform the job.

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How to Keep the Spark In Your Relationship

Posted on 28th April 2011 in Relationships, Tips


Statistics show that after two years of being in a committed relationship, things start to die out. It is important to maintain spark and keep romance alive in a relationship for it to continue and grow, this includes those who are married with children. Many times, we all get so caught up in our own lives, we tend to forget about our significant other and the great times we have shared prior to our busy lives. Therefore, engage in a few activities to help keep the spark alive like you are on your honey moon.  Oh and by the way…Traveling is a surefire way to spice up a relationship.

Surprises are one of the musts in every relationship. Surprises does not necessarily entail a big gift and spending your weekly pay check just to make your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife happy. There are a variety of ways to surprise your significant other which include homemade I love you cards, flowers from the backyard, offering to do a chore, a quick massage, and many others. The ones that will definitely catch the attention and make someone’s heart melt are the big gifts which include jewelry and a get away, but the little things add up as well.

Although many of us get caught up with the many tasks of the day which include taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, working overtime, it is important to spend time with your significant other. This does not mean that you should ignore the many tasks that you have awaiting your attention, but it is a way to engage in these tasks together. Taking the boys out to the park doesn’t mean that it’s the father’s duty to play ball with them, a mother can go along and learn with the boys as well. Cleaning the house doesn’t have to be a one man job, team efforts show appreciation which help boost value in a relationship.

Another way to spend quality time with your partner is to rekindle the nights in bed. Being tired and exhausted is no excuse to ignore the sensations of love making. Experts say couples who have sex at least once a week are more attracted to their partner and the bond between the couple is much more positive than the average couple who engage in intercourse once a month. Keep in mind that engaging in romance does not mean that you should schedule each other in your agenda a few weeks ahead, it should be spontaneous. Participating in role play and experimenting with items and others is also a great way to maintain the spark in a romantic relationship.

With the staggering increase in divorce rates and breakups, it is important to save your relationship before it is too late. If you feel that your relationship is starting to go downhill, it is important to act quickly and engage in little things that help to change the atmosphere in a relationship. Following that is the time bonding and love making. Be sure to reserve time for your partner even with your busy schedule. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices in life, and to keep romance alive in a relationship, time is one of them.

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